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As a parent, it can be tempting to think that the only thing your child is learning is what you are actively teaching them. This is simply not true. Children absorb everything around them from a very young age. Possibly one of the greatest impacts on a child is the relationship between their father and their mother.
In "The Parenting Pyramid" by The Arbinger Company (found at v5.PDF (byui.edu)), it shows that besides your own way of being, the most important point of being an effective parent is how you and your spouse treat each other. It states, "It is tempting to think that the one relationship can be separated from the other, but in practice this separation is nearly impossible to achieve. If parents have difficulties with each other, one way or another children will get sucked into them. Some parents may punish their children harshly, taking out their marital frustrations on them. Other parents may indulge their children, seeking to prove they are loved by somebody or at least to prove they are the children’s favorite. There are many possibilities, but somehow or other, when there is conflict, children almost always get used."
If you feel you are having a hard time influencing and teaching your child, step back and evaluate how your marriage is. Before you can be a good parent, you have to be a good spouse. Failure to do so can result in anxiety and depression in your child.
I grew up in a home with parents who fought constantly. This affects me and my relationships to this day because I was never taught what a loving home and marriage should be. Don't do this to your children.
Resources:
Company, T. A. (1998). The Parenting Pyramid - Brigham
Young University–Idaho.
https://content.byui.edu/file/91e7c911-20c5-4b9f-b8fc-9e4b1b37b6fc/1/Parenting_Pyramid_article.pdf
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